Definition of Workplace Bullying

Workplace Bullying is repeated, health-harming mistreatment of one or more persons (the targets) by one or more perpetrators that takes one or more of the following forms:
*Verbal abuse

*Offensive conduct/behaviors (including nonverbal) which are threatening, humiliating, or intimidating

*Work interference — sabotage — which prevents work from getting done
"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life, but define yourself.”
~Harvey S. Firestone

Monday, October 3, 2011

Cyber-bullying: by email, Facebook, Twitter

There are so many ways in which a bully bullies and there are so many avenues in which they can attack their targets.  There is a lot of attention to implement policies in school systems against bullying, extending it to entail bullying a target through texting, Facebook and Twitter.  A target is anticipating the bullies next move and with the social network a part of life, can you imagine the impact this has on a school age student?  

This is also happening with the work place bully, these narcissistic, attention seeking people have a platform to continue the abuse outside of work.  Sadly, being a Facebook friend with the bullying boss can cause added stress especially if the bullying boss uses it for his/her platform to lure bystanders into his/her web.  I have pages upon pages of my experience with the Facebook Bullying Boss.  Keep in mind, the bullying boss is diabolical and is fully aware of their abusive behavior.  And keep in mind the Dr. Jekyll and Dr. Hyde persona, they are good at putting on whichever face they need.  If you are paying attention to the pattern, it is clearly there even in moments when they are painting the perfect happy life scenario.  

I am sure many of you can relate to being Facebook friends with your fellow co-workers and supervisors...if there is a bullying person in the mix becomes the right ingredients for cyber-bullying.  Now, the bullying boss wants to send a message and does it on Facebook for all co-workers to read.  How would this play out for the target and for the other workers?  And sadly, as a co-worker you are watching this abuse unfold night after night knowing full well where this is being targeted too.  Co-workers choice, say something on Facebook to defend your co-worker or say nothing?  I would imagine most would say nothing or if they do say something it will be to sympathize with the bullying boss.  Recall in previous:  
"Bullies tend to surround themselves with supporters, spies and 'court jesters' while cultivating allies in senior management. The bully will create rivalries in the workforce, as people anxiously fight to stay in their favour, creating a divisive culture which brings out the worst in people. To be 'in' with a bully can seem the best way to survive, and cover any feelings of inadequacy by displacing these on to others, through siding with the bully's aggression. But as long as a bully feels that they can get away with it they will continue." (  
I will let you judge for yourself, this is just a handful of examples. Put yourself into the place of the target and the co-workers.  How would you feel having to walk into work the next day?

"If there is someone who is adding stress to your life; purge them. Life is too short. Planning who's being purged this week as we speak......"
 "Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned" ~ Buddha
"Been a horribly rough few weeks!"
 "The grass isn't always greener on the other side....unless you stop watering your own side........"
"Is today "stupid" day?! They are coming out in droves today"
 "Thinking about necessary changes that have to come about"
"Haha. I wish. The hmmmm is for lots of bs and pettiness surrounding me. :). Is it Friday yet?!"
 "Drama free zone please"
"well i am almost complete with my self help book.. "advanced delusionary schizoprhenia with involuntary narcissistic rage for dummies"...response to this post from the bullying boss:  I need the book. I have an employee it may apply to"
 "I have to agree. I, sadly, deal with ignorant, classless, bafoons daily" 
"I have dealt with such complete ignorance and utter stupidity today, that I couldn't even find a quote that would be appropriate...oh yeah....except "total and complete assholes". :-)"
As I re-read many of the comments and behavior of the bullying boss, I still shake my head in disbelief that he/she still has people encouraging him/her.  Not only encouraging him/her but empathizing with the constant poor me, everybody is stupid, abusive language towards others and carrying on like a child.  I am hopeful that someone is reading this and realizes this behavior is not normal and to take note, it may not be happening to you today but bullies always find new targets.  

If you are watching things like this unfold on a social network, in emails or are around someone behaving like this, run, run far away.  It is always hopeful that others will stand up and speak out against a bullies dysfunctional behaviors.  Sometimes your actions speak louder then words, distancing yourself and not adding to the narcissistic/attention seeking behavior.  It is when the bullies have less of an audience, less people around them and less encouragement to harm others.  

Take a stand, either in your actions or by speaking up,


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