Definition of Workplace Bullying

Workplace Bullying is repeated, health-harming mistreatment of one or more persons (the targets) by one or more perpetrators that takes one or more of the following forms:
*Verbal abuse

*Offensive conduct/behaviors (including nonverbal) which are threatening, humiliating, or intimidating

*Work interference — sabotage — which prevents work from getting done
"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life, but define yourself.”
~Harvey S. Firestone

Saturday, October 29, 2011

Exclamation points

The use of exclamation points in emails could be considered disrespectful and nasty.  Are you sitting there thinking about that statement?  Do you use exclamation points in emails?  Be careful because they can also be construed as insubordination from a bullying boss.  I know when I use an exclamation point in my texts or emails, it is to show enthusiasm or excitement.  In no way shape or form are they intended to be insubordinate, disrespectful or nasty.  

Do you think it is normal for an email to last 11 pages?  How about when the email continues throughout an entire work day? Besides the exclamation point being attacked, the bullying boss also said my responses were with sarcasm.  Sarcasm was not the response at all involved in the 11 pages of this specific email.  Instead, the responses were agreeable responses, accepting I was in a no win situation with the bullying boss and his/her drama seeking personality.   

I understood it at the time and today that this was an attempt to try to get me to react.  It is similar to someone poking you repeatedly.  While they are poking you, you say over and over, "I understand, I get your point, yes, I understand".  The bullying boss continued to poke and poke wanting a reaction.  He/She did not get one so he/she fabricated a story in his/her mind.     Recall, "it is my way or the highway" per the bullying boss.    

Is this normal, I think not! (bullying boss, this ! mark is to show excitement).  It is a clear indication of being bullied and berated, except what you are A BULLY, suffering from NARCISSISM AND ATTENTION SEEKING.  You consider it being NORMAL because you are functioning under the pretenses of being mentally stable, not so much!

The bullying boss wants to berate you and make you feel terrible about yourself.  I have emails which the theme is clear throughout and the language used is the same.  The bullying boss does not discriminate, he/she sends emails to everyone with the same threats, the same words.  

So, lets explore the definition of a few words commonly used by the bullying boss:  unprofessional and nonsensical.  The definition of unprofessional, "1. contrary to the accepted code of conduct of a profession 2. amateur 3. not belonging to or having the required qualifications for a profession unprofessionally  adv" by  
The definition of nonsensical, "adjective 1.  (of words or language) having little or no meaning; making little or no sense: A baby's babbling is appealingly nonsensical.  2.(of behavior, conduct, actions, etc.) foolish, senseless,fatuous, or absurd: His nonsensical behavior was unusual forsuch a serious person.  3.objectionable, impudent, insubordinate: I refuse to listen tothat nonsensical gossip.  4.of trifling importance or of little or no use: I've had more than enough of your nonsensical advice!" by
As the saying goes, the more you project something about others the clearer it is a reflection about yourself.  I believe the bullying boss acted in an unprofessional and in nonsensical ways all the time.

The bullying boss always has a way of expressing disappointment, interjecting how much he/she has done for you and then slamming you for behaving in an unprofessional manner or in a nonsensical way.  If you have been following this blog it should be clear to you by now that a bully knows how to manipulate, lie and cause drama. This is all the while projecting to others how unfair they are being treated by the people they are targeting.  The pattern, the pattern is clear!!!!!! (oops there are those exclamation points)  If you are fortunate or unfortunate enough to have a bullying boss as diabolical as the one I had, sharing emails he/she wrote about other people...the tone, the language, the words and the "I am so perfect, know it all overtone" is all consuming the message from the bullying boss.

My bullying boss is functioning under the pretenses of being the most professional and sensible in the workplace.  Can you see how ironic this thought process is?  The bullying boss functions his/her life under many false pretenses, it is all a false sense of his/her self.  


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