Definition of Workplace Bullying

Workplace Bullying is repeated, health-harming mistreatment of one or more persons (the targets) by one or more perpetrators that takes one or more of the following forms:
*Verbal abuse

*Offensive conduct/behaviors (including nonverbal) which are threatening, humiliating, or intimidating

*Work interference — sabotage — which prevents work from getting done
"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life, but define yourself.”
~Harvey S. Firestone

Tuesday, May 1, 2012

Horrible nightmare...

I have not written in a while.  I have had so much on my plate and the bullying boss, I thought was a distant memory.  Unfortunately, the bullying boss creeped into my dreams last night.  As I have written previously, I have a sick spouse.  My spouse has been sick for a while and now has been hospitalized for almost 4 months.  Each day is another day, each hour brings another change.  Yesterday was the first day my spouse expressed worry about not making it and concern for our families brought me to tears.  

A bully has long lasting affects on your well-being even long after you believe those issues are resolved.  Waking up this morning after having a dream in which the bullying boss reappeared brought back so much pain.  I recall stating in emails to the bullying boss to please stop what was happening and that I needed my job.  I needed my job for all the obvious reasons but especially because of my spouses health.  I needed the security and stability financially.    

The bullying boss made a comment about a co-worker.  The bullying boss talked many times about getting rid of this person but had decided this was not an option because the co-workers spouse was in a wheelchair.  Of course, this was a visual others could see and therefore, could not act on his/her wishes. I believe it would of shown the true heart of the bullying boss to people.  I guess my spouse was safe game because his sickness at the time did not show so outwardly.  

There were so many conversations with the bullying boss about my worries about having a job throughout the years I was employed at his/her company.  A bully does keep haunting your fears have come true in regards to my spouses illness.  The situation is worse then being in a wheelchair, my spouse is fighting for his/her life.  The bullying boss should understand the results of their actions having lasting stress.  The act of the bullying was wrong and the firing was unjustified.  You did me and my family wrong.  

In my dream I was able to tell you to your face all that I feel and think of you!  Maybe someday I will have the opportunity but then again it would not matter...I do not believe you will ever reflect on your actions and the deep impact of what you did on a another human being.