Definition of Workplace Bullying

Workplace Bullying is repeated, health-harming mistreatment of one or more persons (the targets) by one or more perpetrators that takes one or more of the following forms:
*Verbal abuse

*Offensive conduct/behaviors (including nonverbal) which are threatening, humiliating, or intimidating

*Work interference — sabotage — which prevents work from getting done
"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life, but define yourself.”
~Harvey S. Firestone

Friday, September 23, 2011

Dear Bully Boss...

I found a very interesting article, "Dear Bully Boss".  It is about being able to write a letter to your bullying boss.  Here is the website,  and can also be found on Facebook at  Below is some examples of the things that were written to "Dear Bully Boss"...

"I moderate a Facebook Group and something special is happening there.  Last night I came home to find that several people had spontaneously posted “Dear Bully Boss” letters.   I couldn’t help adding my own.  It’s been cathartic for many of us.  Here’s a sampling…  [ names withheld for this posting but you can visit the group and add your own by clicking here]"
Dear Bully Boss: I asked you repeatedly in a very nice way (at first) to please intervene when co-workers were making insulting comments directed at me, talking over me, excluding me and ignoring me when I asked for a cooperative and respectful workplace. If you had acted when I first approached you there would have been very few hard feelings and more than likely we all could have worked as a team..
Dear Bully Boss: F_ You! That’s all I can say. Oh, and another thing… “Karma” will come your way. It always does!
Dear BullyBoss: You insulted me, you talked about me behind my back, you underminded me, you made up lies about me, you talked AT me instead of TO me. You treated me like shit and then tossed me aside like I never mattered. It will take a long time for me to heal from your abuse but at least I know I will get better. YOU NEVER WILL.
Dear Bully Boss: I was not successfull in giving you my soul and all that you expected of me; however, I was able to succeed in giving you what you asked for. Sorry for the inconveniances this may have caused you. Pffft. ya right.!.!
Dear Bully Boss: It is obvious just how deeply entrenched in sand, denial, and do-goodery you are. You know EXACTLY what you did to me and others, as do your secretive and manipulative BOD chairs, and your spineless remaining staff. No one can lie that much and not be aware of it on some level — well, except for the absolute sickest of narcissistic sociopaths… 
Here are some additional comments recently posted on

"For 17 yrs of my life, I lived, ate, and breathed that org, 24/7. Then you came along. Unlike you and those now involved there, I actually HAVE the very illness that you pretend to understand and represent. I was so ill with late-stage Lyme as well, and getting sicker daily. I tried to tell you this. It all fell on deaf ears -- more denial. Wash, rinse, repeat . . . After all, who wants to work with sick people, right (or so I've heard)?"

"Ironic, isn't it? I got the very same "but you don't look sick" speech that we had fought so hard for decades to erase in the medical/lay communities. You even told me daily that my work was horrific, my skill-set was lacking, and that my writing was atrocious (yet you still sell the very books that I wrote)? That's rather remarkable to me. I mean, how did I manage to go from a top-notch employee -- the "backbone of the org" I was called many times over the yrs -- to a blithering idiot in a matter of months (after 17 yrs)???"

"But I also know that you feared and resented me quite a bit (as did others on the BOD and staff) because I was much smarter than average, much thinner than all of you (LOL), and was a more honest human who would not so easily lie on command -- a truth seeker/moral compass who questioned before merely following commands from a dictator. I actually dared to have opinions, as I always have and always will. In the end, you got what you wanted and I was forced to resign or literally be hospitalized (or commit suicide)."

"So, you took away the only source of pride that I had left in my life. You took away my sole source of income. You refused to acknowledge just how sick I was or that my disease even exists. You pretty much destroyed my life to its core. And you did this to a person who represents what you are supposed to be advocating for. Talk about kicking the "cancer patient."

"But Karma's a bitch and does not suffer fools easily.The secret is exposed. The cat's out of the bag. Your underhanded ways, cruelty, and corruption will surely come back to bite you, and hard. Maybe they already have."

"I may be sicker now, thanks in part to severe, documented PTSD caused by your insidious, precision-like, planned and executed mistreatment, but am also way, way smarter, even leaner, and I am a part of an outstanding and ever-growing community of anti-workplace bullying activists (and Lyme activists, too) that are organized in your state, in our country, and throughout the world. We mean business. We are not laughing and smiling w/you in your faux Pollyanna reality. We have much more important work to do."

"You still invade my dreams nightly and turn them into nightmares. But one day I know that you will reap what you've sown. I have faith in that, if nothing else."

And you keep believing your behavior does not affect lives, it does!  Get some help and serious counseling, these "Dear Bully Boss" comments are not made up or imagined.  These are real people with real lives, you are not the only one in the world.  That's right, to the bullying boss, the world only centers around you.  My Dear Bully Boss letter is this blog and as time moves forward, your wickedness will continue to be revealed.    

You can send your stories to Honorable George Miller, Senior Democrat Committee on Education and the Workforce, the website is Lets get the word out and put an end to this epidemic.  


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