Revealed

I was reading back through the blogs I have written and was able to demonstrate the bullying bosses pattern of bullying.  This was achieved by taking the research written on the subject and interjecting my own personal experience with a bully.  There are many experts on the subject of bullying, who studied patterns and psychological traits.  I was in search of understanding this epidemic and educating myself on the parallels of my story and research. 

I will always be perplexed by the people who continue to encourage and/or support a bullies pattern, especially after the parallels have been confirmed. 

A bully response in a specific way when revealed.  The website bully online explains it perfectly:

"Serial bullies harbour a particular hatred of anyone who can articulate their behaviour profile, either verbally or in writing - as on this page - in a manner which helps other people see through their deception and their mask of deceit. The usual instinctive response is to launch a bitter personal attack on the person's credentials, lack of qualifications, and right to talk about personality disorders, psychopathic personality etc, whilst preserving their right to talk about anything they choose - all the while adding nothing to the debate themselves."

"Serial bullies hate to see themselves and their behaviour reflected as if they are looking into a mirror." http://www.bullyonline.org/workbully/serial.htm#Denial
 

The pattern is clear.  If you are someone who is involved with a bully and their pattern is revealed, you have a choice to continue to listen to their gossip and lies.  Trust me, if you are starting to question the bully's reactions and are walking away with a gut feeling...do not ignore it, it is your warning.  As I have said before, if you think for one second as the bully is talking about me or someone else, trust me they have and are talking about you.  If you stop and reflect with an open mind, you will piece things all together. 

If the light bulb goes on in your head, as it did in mind, you will distance yourself or put up some walls away from the bully.  Sadly, once a bully always a bully and revealing a bully's true colors, well you already know what that entails.  Just remember a young child, a brownie/cub scout leader, a wife/husband, your child, your mother/father or YOU will be attacked. 

What will you choose to do? 

Interesting website reading

The following is from the website, http://www.bullyfreeliving.com/ 

What bullies don't want you to know...

"If a victim fights back the bully will say, "See, they're the real bullies.
We are the real victim."

 
"Bullies often will lie about what they have done and are doing. A bully will deny it or claim they are the 'real' victim. Be ready for this to happen. Don't let their lies affect you."

"Bullies will often find a sidekick - a person or group- they will 'use' for their own gain. In their path there are often many individuals they have manipulated and 'used."

"Bullies are very convincing story tellers often gaining sympathy and 'assistants' who help them bully. Rest assured, bullies will 'use' these people then turn on them. Often their sidekick is terrified of being the next victim."

"In cases we have seen bullies tell bold-faced lies to the police when questioned. Even after they are caught in the lie, they never told the truth."
"Bullies are likely to be narcissists never taking responsibility for their actions. Never."