Definition of Workplace Bullying

DEFINITION:
Workplace Bullying is repeated, health-harming mistreatment of one or more persons (the targets) by one or more perpetrators that takes one or more of the following forms:
*Verbal abuse

*Offensive conduct/behaviors (including nonverbal) which are threatening, humiliating, or intimidating

*Work interference — sabotage — which prevents work from getting done
http://www.workplacebullying.org/individuals/problem/definition/
"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life, but define yourself.”
~Harvey S. Firestone

Tuesday, September 20, 2011

Deception


I have been thinking about this blog for sometime now.  This is a hot topic right now.  It is important to note my strong belief in the basis of why unions organized and their benefit to workers.  I realize this maybe a controversial subject, non-union vs union but without laws against bullying in the workplace, a worker stands NO chance to pursue a course of action.  This is why I personally believe we need to recognize the benefits of union organizations and take action to unionize. 

The bullying boss had positioned him/her self in projecting the company as belonging to a union and operated under that premise.  I was told I worked for a union company and when I reached out for help I found out the employer never belonged to a union.  What would be the motive for stating a company belongs to a union? Or projects they believe in what a union stands?  When in reality this was not the case.   

As I have written in previous blogs, the pattern is important to pay attention too.  In this pattern, which others witness is where the truth lies when dealing with a bully.  Bullies most likely sufferer from a personality disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder or Histrionic Personality Disorder.  These bullies may also suffer from Borderline Personality Disorder.  You can read further about these disorders at http://www.bullyonline.org/workbully/npd.htm.  The most prevalent point is their attention seeking behavior.  On Bullying Online website, "drama queens, saviors, rescuers, feigned, and attention-seekers, attention seeking personality disorders, victim syndrome, insecurity and center of attention behavior" (http://www.bullyonline.org/workbully/attent.htm).  I believe once you read this website, you will step back and realize your bullying boss fits this description.

Getting back to my point!  It is important to establish a basis of "Why unions were created".  "Since the creation of labor unions there remains an ongoing struggle to insure that all working people are justly treated by their employer" (http://www.helium.com/items/573736-history-of-labor-unions-in-the-united-states).   In short, unions are there to ensure you are treated fairly and the employer/company is following the laws and the negotiated contract.  If I would of been protected by a union, I would of had a grievance process I could of followed but I did not have that option.      

There is such an ongoing debate about unions, At Will states and Right to Work states.  An At Will state is where your employer does not need a good reason to fire you.  The Right to Work state allows an employee to decide for themselves if they want to or not to join a union.  This is why I believe belonging to a union is beneficial to each of us.  So, when I kept being threatened on a daily basis that I was an "At Will Employee" and therefore the bullying boss needed no reason to fire me...would you of been surprised?  As the saying goes, "a Wolf in Sheep's Clothing is an idiom of Biblical origin.  It is used of those playing a role contrary to their real character, with whom contact is dangerous"...and as the story goes, "A wolf, dressed in sheep's skin,  blended in with the flock of sheep and every day killed one of the sheep" (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Wolf_in_Sheep's_Clothing).

Remember, serial bullies are good at convincing, a practiced liar, has a Dr. Jekyll and Hyde persona, "excels at deception and should never be underestimated in their capacity to deceive", cannot be trusted, is highly manipulative and on and on (http://www.bullyonline.org/workbully/serial.htm).

"Our labor unions are not narrow, self-seeking groups. They have raised wages, shortened hours and provided supplemental benefits. Through collective bargaining and grievance procedures, they have brought justice and democracy to the shop floor"~~JOHN F. KENNEDY, speech, Aug. 30, 1960

Just as previously stated, if someone projected them self as believing in the basis of a union and prided them self in the company belonging to a union...to find out the company did not belong to a union and the bullying boss acted opposite of a union believing person.  Would you look at that person differently and question motive, question why?  If someone took the time to deceive the truth, why?  Refer to the characteristics of a serial bully and the Narcissistic Personality Disorder descriptions.  I hope at this point you can make a correlation and when you are dealing with a bullying boss do the same.  

A Wolf in Sheep's Clothing!

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