Definition of Workplace Bullying

Workplace Bullying is repeated, health-harming mistreatment of one or more persons (the targets) by one or more perpetrators that takes one or more of the following forms:
*Verbal abuse

*Offensive conduct/behaviors (including nonverbal) which are threatening, humiliating, or intimidating

*Work interference — sabotage — which prevents work from getting done
"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life, but define yourself.”
~Harvey S. Firestone

Sunday, August 14, 2011

Establishing history about a bully

After reading a number of books and articles about workplace bullies, I have come to realize that the "targeted" is usually more skilled and the bully feels threatened by their presence.  My bullying boss, "bullied" on a daily basis for nearly four months.  I have emails upon emails, pages upon pages of the daily abuse she/he dished out, all having the same message, you are an asset, you are doing a great job, blah blah blah with the underline tone of I am the boss, everyone else conforms to my rants and now it is your turn to do the same.  Looking back, she/he confirmed I was doing my job, I was an asset but that was not good enough, she/he wanted my dignity, my soul and all that I have stood for in my life.  I kept steady, pushing ahead, doing my job, bringing in business for her/his business and staying on target with clients.  Still, this was not good enough for her/him, she/he was feeling insecure about a current pregnancy his/her wife/husband had (making a comment, she/he usually fires people when she/he husband/wife is pregnant) and she/he intended to target me to make herself/himself feel better. 

I found this information off the Workplace Bullying Instistute website, it puts things into perspective for myself and hopefully for anyone else going through an ordeal like this.
Who Gets Targeted

Why Me?

Unlike schoolyard bullying, you were not targeted because you were a "loner" without friends to stand up to the bullying gang. Nor are you a weakling. Most likely, you were targeted (for reasons the instigator may or may not have known) because you posed a "threat" to him or her. The perception of threat is entirely in his/her mind, but it is what he/she feels and believes.  WBI research findings from our year 2000 study and conversations with thousands of targets have confirmed that targets appear to be the veteran and most skilled person in the workgroup.  Targets are independent. They refuse to be subservient. Bullies seek to enslave targets. When targets take steps to preserve their dignity, their right to be treated with respect, bullies escalate their campaigns of hatred and intimidation to wrest control of the target's work from the target.
Targets are more technically skilled than their bullies. They are the "go-to" veteran workers to whom new employees turn for guidance. Insecure bosses and co-workers can't stand to share credit for the recognition of talent. Bully bosses steal credit from skilled targets.  Targets are better liked, they have more social skills, and quite likely possess greater emotional intelligence. They have empathy (even for their bullies). Colleagues, customers, and management (with exception to the bullies and their sponsors) appreciate the warmth that the targets bring to the workplace. Targets are ethical and honest. Some targets are whistleblowers who expose fraudulent practices. Every whistleblower is bullied. Targets are not schemers or slimy con artists. They tend to be guileless. The most easily exploited targets are people with personalities founded on a prosocial orientation -- a desire to help, heal, teach, develop, nurture others.
Targets are non-confrontive. They do not respond to aggression with aggression. (They are thus morally superior.) But the price paid for apparent submissiveness is that the bully can act with impunity (as long as the employer also does nothing).

According to the 2007 WBI-Zogby Survey, 45% of targeted individuals suffer stress-related health problems. Additional findings regarding targets' health can be found in WBI research and the PTSD-related research by others posted at this site.

As I continue over the next few days to establish some understanding into workplace bullying and also the journey it took me on, I am hopeful that this will help educate you along with inspire you to continue to stand on your morals and know you are the better person for it. 

Goodnight for now,


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